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Are Child Predators Online Going After Single Moms?

Posted on October 21, 2016 by delaine No Comments
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Archives: 2009 When I first started online dating after my divorce, it was my biggest fear: that a child predator would pretend to be interested in me so that he could go after my children.  And today, even though I’m way more comfortable with internet dating, AND, I’ve yet to introduced any man to my […]

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A Reality TV Show That Exposes Deadbeat Dads?

Posted on October 21, 2016 by delaine No Comments
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Posted in 2009. A reality show that exposes fathers who don’t pay child support — what do you think this premise? This is what divorced dad and author Joel Schwartzberg strongly opined on in his article, “Is it Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?”  Apparently Lifetime TV has announced their intention of creating such a reality show. […]

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Shifting Perspective on Married Couples: Lies, Secrets & Masked Sexual Desires

Posted on October 21, 2016 by delaine No Comments
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From the archives of I am Divorced Not Dead; originally published in 2009. I was sitting in a packed school auditorium amidst row after row of devoted parents when “it” happened. I looked at the adults around me — husbands and wives sitting side-by-side, some silent, some holding hands, and the odd mom or dad […]

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Two Years Post-Divorce: Am I Forsaking Love to “Prove” Something?

Posted on October 21, 2016 by delaine No Comments
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  From the archives of I am Divorced Not : originally posted in 2009 “You’ve proven that you don’t need a man, Dee,” said my best friend Hali as she put down her wine glass on the restaurant table.  “What I want to know is when are you going to stop proving it?” I […]

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Stockings & Corsets & Stilettos, Oh My! Halloween Can Help Couples & Divorced Women Own Their “SEXY”!

Posted on October 19, 2016 by delaine No Comments

Here’s a question for you ladies — ALL of you ladies, whether you’re divorced, single or partnered: When was the last time you took the time to REALLY sexy yourself up? I don’t mean “look pretty.”  I mean SEXY.  I mean wearing the kind of outfit and undergarments that make you half-giggle (for the audacity) but […]

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“I want a sensitive man.” No, You DON’T!

Posted on October 17, 2016 by delaine 7 Comments
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“I want a sensitive man.”  It’s become a popular mating call by women these days, especially among women on the heels of a breakup or divorce.  Oftentimes their former partners were, as one divorcing woman put it, “as expressive as a piece of cement.”  Thus, the “sensitive man” —  a guy who’s in touch with […]

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Three Couples Dealing With Sexless Marriages

Posted on October 15, 2016 by delaine 1 Comment
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In our sex-obsessed culture — where everyone seems to be wanting some, getting some, or sneaking some on the side — it may surprise you to know that an estimated 10 – 15 per cent of married couples are sexless (defined by less than 10 times per year).   A further 5 per cent have no […]

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Tips on How to Find A Good Divorce Lawyer

Posted on October 4, 2016 by delaine No Comments
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The majority of couples facing divorce are fearful and unprepared for the process that lies ahead.  This includes the important task of finding a good divorce lawyer:  How do you ascertain who’s qualified, let alone competent.  Where should you even begin to look? What follows are tips on where and what to look for, so […]

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Questions and Cautions Around Dominance & submission

Posted on October 4, 2016 by delaine 1 Comment
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With the film Fifty Shades Darker slated to hit theatres this Valentine’s Day, I’m sure many women will be gung-ho to explore Dominance and submission (D/s). And this quite concerns me: for I know — as a memoirist whose D/s story was adapted into a film — that Hollywood takes poetic licence when telling a […]

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Screw Him! He Didn’t Want to Get Serious Because I Have Three Kids

Posted on September 21, 2016 by delaine No Comments
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From the archives of I Am Divorced Not Dead: Originally published in 2010 I broke up with a man a few days ago – a single father of two children.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he […]

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Watch Out! Dating A Separated or Newly-Divorced Man

Posted on September 20, 2016 by delaine 1 Comment
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  He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually […]

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I Was Snared By A Catfish: Beware The Warning Signs

Posted on September 19, 2016 by delaine 2 Comments
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A male friend of mine said the other day that he thinks people have to be “pretty stupid” to be snared by a catfish (in case you haven’t heard this term it means “an online phony”).  He said that the signs and warnings are obvious — so really, if someone gets duped, shame on him/her. […]

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Dating After Divorce: Ladies, Do You Need An Attitude Tune-Up?

Posted on September 18, 2016 by delaine 1 Comment
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Dating after divorce can be way more frustrating than it ever did back in our twenties.  Work, stress, kids, exes —  not only are you dealing with extra complications, your selection in good men seems dismally small.    Perhaps it’s time to fine-tune your expectations – and tune up your attitude. Update #1: Focus on being the […]

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Getting Naked For The First Time After Divorce

Posted on September 18, 2016 by delaine 4 Comments
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After being with same person for many years, the idea of having sex with someone new can feel both exciting and downright terrifying — almost as much as losing your virginity!  But rest assured, your fears and jitters are normal and common.  Let’s climb on top of them right now. Fear: “But I’m older, saggier and […]

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Not-So-Obvious Signs Your Partner Is Cheating

Posted on September 18, 2016 by delaine 1 Comment

Some signs are easier to spot when it comes to cheating – like sudden disinterest in sex or spending longer hours at work or the phone/ computer. But others are more subtle; elusive. Trust your intuition and observe closely: 1. Taking more showers Taking extra showers could be “ prep work” for a rendez-vous’ or, […]

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