Category: Anger

Anger & Bitterness: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison Since Divorcing?

Posted on 11/02/16 by delaine
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Written during Year Three post-divorce; 2011 Do you ever wonder if you’ve become “hardened” as a result of your divorce? By “hardened”, I don’t mean “stronger.”  I mean “encased in bitterness and distrust” towards the opposite sex. Cause it happened to me — and I didn’t even realize it.  In fact, to this very day, […]

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You May Not Get What You Want, But You Get What You Need

Posted on 10/20/16 by delaine
Patience, divorce, single mom

Over the past year since divorcing, most of my separated and divorced friends have found new partners and set up exciting, new lives for themselves.  And at times, I’ve felt frustrated: Why isn’t the same happening to me?  After all, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, relentlessly performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched […]

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What I Admire & Appreciate About Men

Posted on 09/26/16 by delaine
men are different to women, divorce, sex and dating

I’ll admit that for a couple of years post-divorce, I wrote most of the male species off as knobs. Luckily,  the healing hands of time, combined with lots of inner work and formal  training in gender differences with Dr. John Gray, dulled my anger and allowed a renewed level of appreciation and respect to flourish. […]

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Watch Out! Dating A Separated or Newly-Divorced Man

Posted on 09/20/16 by delaine
date separated man, advice, divorce relationships coach, help, watch out

  He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually […]

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“I Don’t Need A Man” – I’m Calling BS on This Catch Phrase Among Divorced Women

Posted on 01/28/16 by delaine
angry women, divorced, dating women, what's wrong with attitude, Delaine Moore, bestselling author, get over your anger hurt, coach, therapist

  (first published in 2012) Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far the most popular statement I’ve heard from women: “I don’t need a man”.  And it’s been said with passion.  Power.  Ownership.  As if it’s been earned. And I’ve heard it all over the place: from dinners with girlfriends…to […]

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Resentment Towards My Ex Flows Through My Body Like Lava

Posted on 10/21/15 by delaine
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From the archives of I Am Divorced Not Dead: Originally posted in 2019 At three and a half years into my divorce, I no longer feel like I’m mourning my marriage.  The grief, the fear, the heartache of betrayal  – they lie behind me now, serving as sources of strength and wisdom, not pain. But getting over my marriage […]

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Telling Your Ex-Husband (or Ex-Wife) You Have A New Partner

Posted on 10/15/15 by delaine
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In my work as a divorce coach, it saddens me how often separated or divorced parents refuse to tell each other when they have a serious new partner in their lives. Oftentimes, it’s not until their child says something, or a friend/family member speaks up, that the unknowing ex finds out.  That, or the new […]

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