Category: Confidence

The Value of a Sharp, No-Bullsh** Girlfriend & Mentor During Divorce

Posted on 10/31/16 by delaine
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  Sharp.  Astute.  A woman with a “no bullshit” attitude. This is the kind of mentor/girlfriend I believe all divorcing women need in their corner during a divorce.  Let me qualify that by saying it’s not the only kind of friend we need. We need those who make us laugh and forget, those who are […]

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On Becoming A “Woman With A History”

Posted on 10/27/16 by delaine
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There’s a powerful feeling growing beneath my skin.  It’s been pushing through me and into my consciousness over the past year.  It speaks of love, sorrow, adventure, and intensity. It stems from having shared, loved, believed, lost, marrying, giving birth, trying again, trying harder, aching and celebrating. It speaks of gradual surrender and letting go, […]

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Remember: You Are NOT Your “Story”; Dating After Divorce

Posted on 10/25/16 by delaine
identity crisis divorce, dating, how to date after divorcing

My divorced girlfriend Marie was heading out on a date —  a fourth date, which was a super big deal to her. But as we spoke beforehand over the phone, she was practically in a tizzy: “I really do like this guy, Delaine. But the timing is completely horrid. My life is a a total mess and […]

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Getting Naked For The First Time After Divorce

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
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After being with same person for many years, the idea of having sex with someone new can feel both exciting and downright terrifying — almost as much as losing your virginity!  But rest assured, your fears and jitters are normal and common.  Let’s climb on top of them right now. Fear: “But I’m older, saggier and […]

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You May Not Get What You Want, But You Get What You Need

Posted on 10/20/16 by delaine
Patience, divorce, single mom

Over the past year since divorcing, most of my separated and divorced friends have found new partners and set up exciting, new lives for themselves.  And at times, I’ve felt frustrated: Why isn’t the same happening to me?  After all, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, relentlessly performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched […]

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Dating After Divorce: Ladies, Do You Need An Attitude Tune-Up?

Posted on 09/18/16 by delaine
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Dating after divorce can be way more frustrating than it ever did back in our twenties.  Work, stress, kids, exes —  not only are you dealing with extra complications, your selection in good men seems dismally small.    Perhaps it’s time to fine-tune your expectations – and tune up your attitude. Update #1: Focus on being the […]

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Dumped for Another Woman? Take Your Power Back

Posted on 09/18/16 by delaine
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Being cheating on and dumped for another woman feels like being thrown into a deep black hole with no way out.   Even just the thought, “My husband left me for someone else” is a so deflating; crushing – it reeks of “you weren’t good enough.  He had to find better and she is.” But such […]

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