Category: Dating

Screw Him! He Didn’t Want to Get Serious Because I Have Three Kids

Posted on 09/21/16 by delaine
dating after divorce, screw him, not good enough, didn't want to date because I have kids

From the archives of I Am Divorced Not Dead: Originally published in 2010 I broke up with a man a few days ago – a single father of two children.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he […]

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Watch Out! Dating A Separated or Newly-Divorced Man

Posted on 09/20/16 by delaine
date separated man, advice, divorce relationships coach, help, watch out

  He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually […]

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I Was Snared By A Catfish: Beware The Warning Signs

Posted on 09/19/16 by delaine
catfish, scammers online, how to tell, is he real?, divorced women prey

A male friend of mine said the other day that he thinks people have to be “pretty stupid” to be snared by a catfish (in case you haven’t heard this term it means “an online phony”).  He said that the signs and warnings are obvious — so really, if someone gets duped, shame on him/her. […]

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Dating After Divorce: Ladies, Do You Need An Attitude Tune-Up?

Posted on 09/18/16 by delaine
sex, dating, attitude, tips, divorced women

Dating after divorce can be way more frustrating than it ever did back in our twenties.  Work, stress, kids, exes —  not only are you dealing with extra complications, your selection in good men seems dismally small.    Perhaps it’s time to fine-tune your expectations – and tune up your attitude. Update #1: Focus on being the […]

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Dating Games Women Play That Don’t Work

Posted on 09/17/16 by delaine
stupid games women play while dating

Some games women play while dating may seem wise and to be based on nuggets of truth — but at the core, they serve to justify deception instead of building authenticity and love; they’re similar yet worlds apart.  Let’s turn the games into good advice:   Game #1: Don’t return his calls and he’ll want […]

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Sleeping With A Man After Divorce

Posted on 09/04/16 by delaine
sleep with man after divorce

  From the archives: 2010 Since separating from my ex-husband two years ago, I haven’t slept with many men; in fact, less than a handful. Oh – let me clarify:  I mean actually sleeping with men. This has been the case for two reasons.  One, I haven’t wanted to sleep beside most of them.  And […]

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How would you respond to, “I’m looking for a sugarbaby”?

Posted on 05/08/16 by delaine
sugarbaby, mistress, dull-time student, divorced mom

Imagine this: You’re in your late thirties, divorced, broke, and trying to singlehandedly raise your children while you go to school full-time. Suddenly, the most unexpected offer literally lands on your table — an “indecent proposal” by a wealthy stranger. Reserve judgment until you read the full article here on The Huffington Post.  

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“I Don’t Need A Man” – I’m Calling BS on This Catch Phrase Among Divorced Women

Posted on 01/28/16 by delaine
angry women, divorced, dating women, what's wrong with attitude, Delaine Moore, bestselling author, get over your anger hurt, coach, therapist

  (first published in 2012) Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far the most popular statement I’ve heard from women: “I don’t need a man”.  And it’s been said with passion.  Power.  Ownership.  As if it’s been earned. And I’ve heard it all over the place: from dinners with girlfriends…to […]

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Can Going Without Sex Become A “Bad Habit” After Divorce?

Posted on 11/16/15 by delaine
go without sex, when to have sex. early to have sex help divorce

I was standing beside a divorced soccer mom, watching our kids’ game, when she suddenly blurted: “Do you realize I haven’t had sex in over three years?” I turned to her, mouth open. “You’ve got to be joking.” She shook her head. “No… I’m afraid not.” “But how? Why? Look at you — you’re gorgeous…hot!  And […]

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