Category: Girlfriends

The Value of a Sharp, No-Bullsh** Girlfriend & Mentor During Divorce

Posted on 10/31/16 by delaine
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  Sharp.  Astute.  A woman with a “no bullshit” attitude. This is the kind of mentor/girlfriend I believe all divorcing women need in their corner during a divorce.  Let me qualify that by saying it’s not the only kind of friend we need. We need those who make us laugh and forget, those who are […]

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Revenge, Retribution & Compensation: Black Box – The Gift of Betrayal

Posted on 10/27/16 by delaine
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Black Box — The Gift of Betrayal: A Q & A with author COLLEEN SHANA “You’ve fucked with my husband, Skank. Now, it’s time to fuck with me.” Author Colleen Shana grins and shakes her head as she reads this line from her new book, Black Box, The Gift of Betrayal.  “I know, I know…  My […]

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Remember: You Are NOT Your “Story”; Dating After Divorce

Posted on 10/25/16 by delaine
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My divorced girlfriend Marie was heading out on a date —  a fourth date, which was a super big deal to her. But as we spoke beforehand over the phone, she was practically in a tizzy: “I really do like this guy, Delaine. But the timing is completely horrid. My life is a a total mess and […]

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Two Years Post-Divorce: Am I Forsaking Love to “Prove” Something?

Posted on 10/16/16 by delaine
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  From the archives of I am Divorced Not Dead.com : originally posted in 2009 “You’ve proven that you don’t need a man, Dee,” said my best friend Hali as she put down her wine glass on the restaurant table.  “What I want to know is when are you going to stop proving it?” I […]

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Screw Him! He Didn’t Want to Get Serious Because I Have Three Kids

Posted on 09/21/16 by delaine
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From the archives of I Am Divorced Not Dead: Originally published in 2010 I broke up with a man a few days ago – a single father of two children.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he […]

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How would you respond to, “I’m looking for a sugarbaby”?

Posted on 05/08/16 by delaine
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Imagine this: You’re in your late thirties, divorced, broke, and trying to singlehandedly raise your children while you go to school full-time. Suddenly, the most unexpected offer literally lands on your table — an “indecent proposal” by a wealthy stranger. Reserve judgment until you read the full article here on The Huffington Post.  

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Can Going Without Sex Become A “Bad Habit” After Divorce?

Posted on 11/16/15 by delaine
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I was standing beside a divorced soccer mom, watching our kids’ game, when she suddenly blurted: “Do you realize I haven’t had sex in over three years?” I turned to her, mouth open. “You’ve got to be joking.” She shook her head. “No… I’m afraid not.” “But how? Why? Look at you — you’re gorgeous…hot!  And […]

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When To Have Sex: Which “Side” of You Decides?

Posted on 11/17/14 by delaine
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Originally published in 2011 As my divorced friend Ashley filled me in on a first date she’d just come back from, she was practically squealing.  Not only was her date funny, intelligent and very much a gentleman, she was super physically attracted to him.  “I kept reminding myself to stop staring at his chest,” she […]

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