Category: Grief

It’s Sometimes Hard to Be Present With The Children During Divorce

Posted on 11/25/16 by delaine
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Like most parents, I love my kids more than life itself.  And since I got divorced, I’ve worked really hard to make sure that they not just adjusted, but thrived. But I’m human…far from perfect.  And sometimes life circumstances have gotten the best of me or worn me down. Consequently, my children have seen me crying. They’ve […]

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First Time Without Kids: “My heart is so heavy”

Posted on 11/17/16 by delaine
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From the archives: Three years post-divorce, 2011 I received this message from a newly-separated woman on Facebook today: “My ex-husband took the kids for the first time this weekend….and my heart feels so heavy. My “free time” just reminds me how alone and directionless I am.” I read her message with a tight chest:  I remember… Three […]

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Anger & Bitterness: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison Since Divorcing?

Posted on 11/02/16 by delaine
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Written during Year Three post-divorce; 2011 Do you ever wonder if you’ve become “hardened” as a result of your divorce? By “hardened”, I don’t mean “stronger.”  I mean “encased in bitterness and distrust” towards the opposite sex. Cause it happened to me — and I didn’t even realize it.  In fact, to this very day, […]

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You May Not Get What You Want, But You Get What You Need

Posted on 10/20/16 by delaine
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Over the past year since divorcing, most of my separated and divorced friends have found new partners and set up exciting, new lives for themselves.  And at times, I’ve felt frustrated: Why isn’t the same happening to me?  After all, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, relentlessly performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched […]

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Watch Out! Dating A Separated or Newly-Divorced Man

Posted on 09/20/16 by delaine
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  He says his marriage is long over.  He says he’s ready to date again.  But would it be wise for you – a woman who is ultimately seeking a serious relationship – to throw caution to the wind and dive right in? I’d definitely say, “No way.” Getting involved with a separated man usually […]

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Dumped for Another Woman? Take Your Power Back

Posted on 09/18/16 by delaine
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Being cheating on and dumped for another woman feels like being thrown into a deep black hole with no way out.   Even just the thought, “My husband left me for someone else” is a so deflating; crushing – it reeks of “you weren’t good enough.  He had to find better and she is.” But such […]

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