Category: Infidelity/ Cheating

Anger & Bitterness: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison Since Divorcing?

Posted on 11/02/16 by delaine
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Written during Year Three post-divorce; 2011 Do you ever wonder if you’ve become “hardened” as a result of your divorce? By “hardened”, I don’t mean “stronger.”  I mean “encased in bitterness and distrust” towards the opposite sex. Cause it happened to me — and I didn’t even realize it.  In fact, to this very day, […]

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Revenge, Retribution & Compensation: Black Box – The Gift of Betrayal

Posted on 10/27/16 by delaine
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Black Box — The Gift of Betrayal: A Q & A with author COLLEEN SHANA “You’ve fucked with my husband, Skank. Now, it’s time to fuck with me.” Author Colleen Shana grins and shakes her head as she reads this line from her new book, Black Box, The Gift of Betrayal.  “I know, I know…  My […]

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She Grew Balls & Confronted His Mistress to Find ANSWERS

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
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When Fiona picked up the phone in the middle of the night to a drunk woman’s voice, asking for her husband, the situation didn’t register at first: she was half-asleep, half out of it. But all of a sudden, her brain went crystal clear.  Heart was pounding. “Who are you?” Fiona asked. “Why are you calling […]

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Spotting A Cheater: They Don’t Wear Signs

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
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Oh, the clarity of hindsight. It applies to the signs of a cheating spouse, too. For Mark, the signs came out in the bedroom.  “All of sudden, she kept insisting we do this new sexual position,” he said. “I thought maybe she’d been discussing it with her friends or seen it in a magazine or […]

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Shifting Perspective on Married Couples: Lies, Secrets & Masked Sexual Desires

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
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From the archives of I am Divorced Not Dead; originally published in 2009. I was sitting in a packed school auditorium amidst row after row of devoted parents when “it” happened. I looked at the adults around me — husbands and wives sitting side-by-side, some silent, some holding hands, and the odd mom or dad […]

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Not-So-Obvious Signs Your Partner Is Cheating

Posted on 09/18/16 by delaine
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Some signs are easier to spot when it comes to cheating – like sudden disinterest in sex or spending longer hours at work or the phone/ computer. But others are more subtle; elusive. Trust your intuition and observe closely: 1. Taking more showers Taking extra showers could be “ prep work” for a rendez-vous’ or, […]

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Dumped for Another Woman? Take Your Power Back

Posted on 09/18/16 by delaine
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Being cheating on and dumped for another woman feels like being thrown into a deep black hole with no way out.   Even just the thought, “My husband left me for someone else” is a so deflating; crushing – it reeks of “you weren’t good enough.  He had to find better and she is.” But such […]

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How would you respond to, “I’m looking for a sugarbaby”?

Posted on 05/08/16 by delaine
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Imagine this: You’re in your late thirties, divorced, broke, and trying to singlehandedly raise your children while you go to school full-time. Suddenly, the most unexpected offer literally lands on your table — an “indecent proposal” by a wealthy stranger. Reserve judgment until you read the full article here on The Huffington Post.  

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