Category: Legal Process

Unfortunately, An Ex Sometimes Requires The Strong Arm of the Law to Behave

Posted on 11/23/16 by delaine
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Dealing with an ex can sometimes feel like dealing with a child: You give and give and give — you explain things kindly over and over again. Yet still he/she doesn’t get it.  And although it’s unfortunate and not at all what we want to do, sometimes we need to take legal action in order […]

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The Value of a Sharp, No-Bullsh** Girlfriend & Mentor During Divorce

Posted on 10/31/16 by delaine

  Sharp.  Astute.  A woman with a “no bullshit” attitude. This is the kind of mentor/girlfriend I believe all divorcing women need in their corner during a divorce.  Let me qualify that by saying it’s not the only kind of friend we need. We need those who make us laugh and forget, those who are […]

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Remember: You Are NOT Your “Story”; Dating After Divorce

Posted on 10/25/16 by delaine
identity crisis divorce, dating, how to date after divorcing

My divorced girlfriend Marie was heading out on a date —  a fourth date, which was a super big deal to her. But as we spoke beforehand over the phone, she was practically in a tizzy: “I really do like this guy, Delaine. But the timing is completely horrid. My life is a a total mess and […]

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Tips on How to Find A Good Divorce Lawyer

Posted on 10/04/16 by delaine
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The majority of couples facing divorce are fearful and unprepared for the process that lies ahead.  This includes the important task of finding a good divorce lawyer:  How do you ascertain who’s qualified, let alone competent.  Where should you even begin to look? What follows are tips on where and what to look for, so […]

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Resentment Towards My Ex Flows Through My Body Like Lava

Posted on 10/21/15 by delaine
resent ex-husband, resentment divorce

From the archives of I Am Divorced Not Dead: Originally posted in 2019 At three and a half years into my divorce, I no longer feel like I’m mourning my marriage.  The grief, the fear, the heartache of betrayal  – they lie behind me now, serving as sources of strength and wisdom, not pain. But getting over my marriage […]

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