Category: Relationships

“I want a sensitive man.” No, You DON’T!

Posted on 12/25/16 by delaine
sensitive man, dating after divorce

“I want a sensitive man.”  It’s become a popular mating call by women these days, especially among women on the heels of a breakup or divorce.  Oftentimes their former partners were, as one divorcing woman put it, “as expressive as a piece of cement.”  Thus, the “sensitive man” —  a guy who’s in touch with […]

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Travelling Spouse: Prevent Your Relationship From Nose-Diving

Posted on 10/27/16 by delaine
husband out of town , strain on marriage

  When a spouse regularly works out of town, his (or her) return trips home usually spell stress and chaos on the home front.  Over time, resentment can easily grow around issues like downtime, chores, parenting and (lack of) sex.  Here are some tips and insights to keep your relationship on track. Downtime: He needs […]

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Three Couples Dealing With Sexless Marriages

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
no sex in marriage, happy?, couples help, boring sex, divorced not dead

In our sex-obsessed culture — where everyone seems to be wanting some, getting some, or sneaking some on the side — it may surprise you to know that an estimated 10 – 15 per cent of married couples are sexless (defined by less than 10 times per year).   A further 5 per cent have no […]

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Shifting Perspective on Married Couples: Lies, Secrets & Masked Sexual Desires

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
truth about marriage, affairs, hidden passion, sexual desire, cheaters, no sex

From the archives of I am Divorced Not Dead; originally published in 2009. I was sitting in a packed school auditorium amidst row after row of devoted parents when “it” happened. I looked at the adults around me — husbands and wives sitting side-by-side, some silent, some holding hands, and the odd mom or dad […]

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Please, Lie Beside Me, Lover, and Read

Posted on 10/23/16 by delaine
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I’ve always yearned to lie in bed beside the man I love while we read and discuss a great book.  The mere idea of this sharing feels romantic.  Deeply intimate.   In some ways, exciting. I can’t say that any man I’ve loved or cared for thus far, including my ex-husband, was a book lover like me. […]

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Why Does My Newly-Divorced Boyfriend Suddenly Want Space?

Posted on 10/20/16 by delaine
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Hi Delaine, For the past eight months, I’ve been seriously dating a separated man while he wrapped up his divorce. His divorce became final maybe six weeks ago.  They were married for 15 years and he said it was bad marriage.  Ever since his divorce was finalized, I’ve felt like he’s been acting differently, a […]

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Female Desire: Is Sexual Boredom Inevitable?

Posted on 09/29/16 by delaine
bored with sex, disinterested in sex with husband

When I look back on my relationship history – which includes a few healthy long-term relationships as well as a seven-year marriage that ended in divorce, I see one rather unsettling common denominator underneath them: I eventually got “bored” with the sex. Now by “bored”, I mean I experienced a dramatic drop in sexual desire.  […]

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Does Her “To-Do List” Make You Nuts?

Posted on 09/17/16 by delaine
understanding women, help make wife happy, to do list, chores, division of household tasks, she makes me nuts

Question from a reader: Hi Delaine, I’ve been divorced a couple of times and am now seriously dating a woman. The other day, she told me that if we were to get more serious, she’d expect me to complete her “to-do list” every evening after work.  I am tired after work and just want to […]

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Little Ways to Score Big Points With Your Woman

Posted on 09/17/16 by delaine
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Guys, this might run contrary to what you believe – but scoring big with women doesn’t have to entail huge trips or purchases.  In fact, big purchases and gestures, though lovely, don’t even satisfy her for long.  To women, little things count.  Big time.  Moreover, so does FREQUENCY. Here are some examples — try them out!!! […]

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What If The New Boyfriend Wants to Have a Child of His Own?

Posted on 02/21/16 by delaine
boyfriend wants baby, divorce choices, tough question

From the archives of I am Divorced Not Dead: Originally posted in 2009; fresh to divorce! While I was married, I gave birth to three kids in three years and I can honestly say their early years are a blur to me; life was CRAZY.  And since divorcing, I’ve sworn I wouldn’t have another child. “My […]

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Stockings & Corsets & Stilettos, Oh My! Halloween Can Help Couples & Divorced Women Own Their “SEXY”!

Posted on 10/28/14 by delaine
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Here’s a question for you ladies — ALL of you ladies, whether you’re divorced, single or partnered: When was the last time you took the time to REALLY sexy yourself up? I don’t mean “look pretty.”  I mean SEXY.  I mean wearing the kind of outfit and undergarments that make you half-giggle (for the audacity) but […]

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