Category: Sex

“Edging” – An Amazing Sexual Technique That Makes Women Go Wild

Posted on 11/08/16 by delaine
edging, orgasm, sex, make woman nuts,

Men, have you heard of the term “edging” before?  Do you want your woman to experience the most earth-shattering orgasms of her life, and look at you with stars in her eyes? Then make sure you are well-versed and practiced at “edging.” Edging is an artful technique that involves a man (or woman) bringing his/her partner […]

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Are You Dating Another Version of Your Ex?

Posted on 10/28/16 by delaine
dating, attraction, like ex-wife, he's my ex-husband

Are you dating someone since divorcing who’s bringing you down?  Are you ignoring the warning signs that this person is  WAY too much work — kind of like your ex-husband/ex-wife was?  Has it ever crossed your mind that perhaps you’re so programmed to putting out relationship fires and compromising who you are and what you […]

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Role Reversal: “Baby, This is Sex, Not Love”

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
I love you to early, divorced mom, when to say I love you

We enjoyed each other’s bodies for hours that night.  And the sex was as magnificent and fulfilling as it was the previous five times we’d lain together: intense, passionate, consuming and totally stress-busting! But afterwards, as I lay cuddled into his chest, eyes closed, brain floating off in Post-Orgasmic Wonderland,  I suddenly heard:  “I love you, […]

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Three Couples Dealing With Sexless Marriages

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
no sex in marriage, happy?, couples help, boring sex, divorced not dead

In our sex-obsessed culture — where everyone seems to be wanting some, getting some, or sneaking some on the side — it may surprise you to know that an estimated 10 – 15 per cent of married couples are sexless (defined by less than 10 times per year).   A further 5 per cent have no […]

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First Time “Entry”: Slow the H*** Down, Tonto!

Posted on 10/25/16 by delaine
new lover, first time sex, divorce, enter a woman

Today I want to briefly talk about an important moment during sex that you may not have analyzed before: the moment when a man enters a woman.  My inspiration for this blog?  A recent experience my divorced girlfriend had with her new lover. His “entrance” made her eyes roll alright … in annoyance, not with pleasure! […]

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Shifting Perspective on Married Couples: Lies, Secrets & Masked Sexual Desires

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
truth about marriage, affairs, hidden passion, sexual desire, cheaters, no sex

From the archives of I am Divorced Not Dead; originally published in 2009. I was sitting in a packed school auditorium amidst row after row of devoted parents when “it” happened. I looked at the adults around me — husbands and wives sitting side-by-side, some silent, some holding hands, and the odd mom or dad […]

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Getting Naked For The First Time After Divorce

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
performance issues, first time naked, sex

After being with same person for many years, the idea of having sex with someone new can feel both exciting and downright terrifying — almost as much as losing your virginity!  But rest assured, your fears and jitters are normal and common.  Let’s climb on top of them right now. Fear: “But I’m older, saggier and […]

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Questions and Cautions Around Dominance & submission

Posted on 10/02/16 by delaine
real life dominance and submission, finding a Dominant

With the film Fifty Shades Darker slated to hit theatres this Valentine’s Day, I’m sure many women will be gung-ho to explore Dominance and submission (D/s). And this quite concerns me: for I know — as a memoirist whose D/s story was adapted into a film — that Hollywood takes poetic licence when telling a […]

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Female Desire: Is Sexual Boredom Inevitable?

Posted on 09/29/16 by delaine
bored with sex, disinterested in sex with husband

When I look back on my relationship history – which includes a few healthy long-term relationships as well as a seven-year marriage that ended in divorce, I see one rather unsettling common denominator underneath them: I eventually got “bored” with the sex. Now by “bored”, I mean I experienced a dramatic drop in sexual desire.  […]

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Casual Sex: 6 Important Questions to Ask Yourself Before Getting Naked

Posted on 09/27/16 by delaine
casual sex after divorce and break up

1. What’s fueling your horniness? Your hormones may be screaming and a hot passionate romp may be what you *think* you need. But if you’ve recently gone through a period of stress, i.e., you were cheated on, or your marriage or serious relationship collapsed, your sexual desire might be fueled by a need for validation, […]

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Qualities to Look For in a REAL Dominant

Posted on 09/26/16 by delaine
Thinking businessman

Many women are actively seeking a Dominant in their private lives as a result of having read Fifty Shades of Grey or The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom.   But ladies, beware:  any man can sport black leather and  a flogger and call himself a Dom.  You need to know how to distinguish the […]

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