Category: Single Parenting

It’s Sometimes Hard to Be Present With The Children During Divorce

Posted on 11/25/16 by delaine
trying to stay present with kids, parenting after divorce, exhausted parent

Like most parents, I love my kids more than life itself.  And since I got divorced, I’ve worked really hard to make sure that they not just adjusted, but thrived. But I’m human…far from perfect.  And sometimes life circumstances have gotten the best of me or worn me down. Consequently, my children have seen me crying. They’ve […]

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Unfortunately, An Ex Sometimes Requires The Strong Arm of the Law to Behave

Posted on 11/23/16 by delaine
legal action, divorce. ex pay child spousal support

Dealing with an ex can sometimes feel like dealing with a child: You give and give and give — you explain things kindly over and over again. Yet still he/she doesn’t get it.  And although it’s unfortunate and not at all what we want to do, sometimes we need to take legal action in order […]

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First Time Without Kids: “My heart is so heavy”

Posted on 11/17/16 by delaine
ex takes kids divorced mom

From the archives: Three years post-divorce, 2011 I received this message from a newly-separated woman on Facebook today: “My ex-husband took the kids for the first time this weekend….and my heart feels so heavy. My “free time” just reminds me how alone and directionless I am.” I read her message with a tight chest:  I remember… Three […]

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Fee Assistance For Divorced Moms & Dads During Tough Economic Times

Posted on 10/25/16 by delaine
need money, financial help, single mom, calgary, kids sports, family activities

Has your divorced family fallen into harsh financial circumstances?  Are you fretting that your kids will miss out on important activities like sports, day camps, trips to the science center/zoo, because you simply don’t have the money?  You aren’t alone….especially here in Calgary, Alberta, where I live, and an estimated one in nine adults are out […]

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Are Child Predators Online Going After Single Moms?

Posted on 10/21/16 by delaine
online child predators, dangers divorce dating,

Archives: 2009 When I first started online dating after my divorce, it was my biggest fear: that a child predator would pretend to be interested in me so that he could go after my children.  And today, even though I’m way more comfortable with internet dating, AND, I’ve yet to introduced any man to my […]

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A Reality TV Show That Exposes Deadbeat Dads?

Posted on 10/21/16 by delaine
neglected boy, deadbeat dad, reality show to expose dads who don't pay child support

Posted in 2009. A reality show that exposes fathers who don’t pay child support — what do you think this premise? This is what divorced dad and author Joel Schwartzberg strongly opined on in his article, “Is it Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?”  Apparently Lifetime TV has announced their intention of creating such a reality show. […]

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You May Not Get What You Want, But You Get What You Need

Posted on 10/20/16 by delaine
Patience, divorce, single mom

Over the past year since divorcing, most of my separated and divorced friends have found new partners and set up exciting, new lives for themselves.  And at times, I’ve felt frustrated: Why isn’t the same happening to me?  After all, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, relentlessly performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched […]

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Telling Your Ex-Husband (or Ex-Wife) You Have A New Partner

Posted on 10/15/15 by delaine
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In my work as a divorce coach, it saddens me how often separated or divorced parents refuse to tell each other when they have a serious new partner in their lives. Oftentimes, it’s not until their child says something, or a friend/family member speaks up, that the unknowing ex finds out.  That, or the new […]

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