Category: Social Programming

Anger & Bitterness: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison Since Divorcing?

Posted on 11/02/16 by delaine
anger bitterness towards women men

Written during Year Three post-divorce; 2011 Do you ever wonder if you’ve become “hardened” as a result of your divorce? By “hardened”, I don’t mean “stronger.”  I mean “encased in bitterness and distrust” towards the opposite sex. Cause it happened to me — and I didn’t even realize it.  In fact, to this very day, […]

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Financial Domination: An Unusual But Very Real Fetish

Posted on 10/27/16 by delaine
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This past week, my friend Deanne was chatting at length with a younger man on a dating site when he suddenly hit her with an “unusual” request:  “Every month I’d like to give you money,“ he wrote.  “You can spend it on yourself or any way you want.  We can start out small but maybe […]

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A Reality TV Show That Exposes Deadbeat Dads?

Posted on 10/21/16 by delaine
neglected boy, deadbeat dad, reality show to expose dads who don't pay child support

Posted in 2009. A reality show that exposes fathers who don’t pay child support — what do you think this premise? This is what divorced dad and author Joel Schwartzberg strongly opined on in his article, “Is it Wrong to Slam Deadbeat Dads on TV?”  Apparently Lifetime TV has announced their intention of creating such a reality show. […]

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Female Desire: Is Sexual Boredom Inevitable?

Posted on 09/29/16 by delaine
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When I look back on my relationship history – which includes a few healthy long-term relationships as well as a seven-year marriage that ended in divorce, I see one rather unsettling common denominator underneath them: I eventually got “bored” with the sex. Now by “bored”, I mean I experienced a dramatic drop in sexual desire.  […]

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Screw Him! He Didn’t Want to Get Serious Because I Have Three Kids

Posted on 09/21/16 by delaine
dating after divorce, screw him, not good enough, didn't want to date because I have kids

From the archives of I Am Divorced Not Dead: Originally published in 2010 I broke up with a man a few days ago – a single father of two children.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he […]

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An Imagination Game for Men: You, A Woman, & An Island

Posted on 09/16/16 by delaine
unfair stereotypes of women, dating after divorce

I think it’s safe to say that the majority of men have strong aversions to women who have “slept around” when it comes to selecting a wife or serious partner.  They’ll say, straight up, such women are  “just for fun”, but not the kind they’d “bring home to momma.” And the reasons men use to […]

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