Category: Women’s Sexuality

When To Have Sex: Which “Side” of You Decides?

Posted on 11/17/16 by delaine
dating sex after divorce , 30s, 40s, 50s. best blog

Originally published in 2011 As my divorced friend Ashley filled me in on a first date she’d just come back from, she was practically squealing.  Not only was her date funny, intelligent and very much a gentleman, she was super physically attracted to him.  “I kept reminding myself to stop staring at his chest,” she […]

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“Edging” – An Amazing Sexual Technique That Makes Women Go Wild

Posted on 11/08/16 by delaine
edging, orgasm, sex, make woman nuts,

Men, have you heard of the term “edging” before?  Do you want your woman to experience the most earth-shattering orgasms of her life, and look at you with stars in her eyes? Then make sure you are well-versed and practiced at “edging.” Edging is an artful technique that involves a man (or woman) bringing his/her partner […]

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“MINE” — A Shiver-Inducing Snapshot of the D/s Dynamic (Dominance & submission)

Posted on 10/29/16 by delaine
Movies books like Fifty Shades, Delaine Moore's The Secret Sex Life of a SIngle Mom

I LOVE this video.  I really really love it, and I’ve watched it probably 50 times over the past two years. In my opinion, this work by Alvaro de la Herran for GQ Spain, beautifully captures the beauty and eroticism of the D/s connection and dynamic — much more so than anything  portrayed in the […]

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Stockings & Corsets & Stilettos, Oh My! Halloween Can Help Couples & Divorced Women Own Their “SEXY”!

Posted on 10/28/16 by delaine
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Here’s a question for you ladies — ALL of you ladies, whether you’re divorced, single or partnered: When was the last time you took the time to REALLY sexy yourself up? I don’t mean “look pretty.”  I mean SEXY.  I mean wearing the kind of outfit and undergarments that make you half-giggle (for the audacity) but […]

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Are You Dating Another Version of Your Ex?

Posted on 10/28/16 by delaine
dating, attraction, like ex-wife, he's my ex-husband

Are you dating someone since divorcing who’s bringing you down?  Are you ignoring the warning signs that this person is  WAY too much work — kind of like your ex-husband/ex-wife was?  Has it ever crossed your mind that perhaps you’re so programmed to putting out relationship fires and compromising who you are and what you […]

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Role Reversal: “Baby, This is Sex, Not Love”

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
I love you to early, divorced mom, when to say I love you

We enjoyed each other’s bodies for hours that night.  And the sex was as magnificent and fulfilling as it was the previous five times we’d lain together: intense, passionate, consuming and totally stress-busting! But afterwards, as I lay cuddled into his chest, eyes closed, brain floating off in Post-Orgasmic Wonderland,  I suddenly heard:  “I love you, […]

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Three Couples Dealing With Sexless Marriages

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
no sex in marriage, happy?, couples help, boring sex, divorced not dead

In our sex-obsessed culture — where everyone seems to be wanting some, getting some, or sneaking some on the side — it may surprise you to know that an estimated 10 – 15 per cent of married couples are sexless (defined by less than 10 times per year).   A further 5 per cent have no […]

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First Time “Entry”: Slow the H*** Down, Tonto!

Posted on 10/25/16 by delaine
new lover, first time sex, divorce, enter a woman

Today I want to briefly talk about an important moment during sex that you may not have analyzed before: the moment when a man enters a woman.  My inspiration for this blog?  A recent experience my divorced girlfriend had with her new lover. His “entrance” made her eyes roll alright … in annoyance, not with pleasure! […]

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Shifting Perspective on Married Couples: Lies, Secrets & Masked Sexual Desires

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
truth about marriage, affairs, hidden passion, sexual desire, cheaters, no sex

From the archives of I am Divorced Not Dead; originally published in 2009. I was sitting in a packed school auditorium amidst row after row of devoted parents when “it” happened. I looked at the adults around me — husbands and wives sitting side-by-side, some silent, some holding hands, and the odd mom or dad […]

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Getting Naked For The First Time After Divorce

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
performance issues, first time naked, sex

After being with same person for many years, the idea of having sex with someone new can feel both exciting and downright terrifying — almost as much as losing your virginity!  But rest assured, your fears and jitters are normal and common.  Let’s climb on top of them right now. Fear: “But I’m older, saggier and […]

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Questions and Cautions Around Dominance & submission

Posted on 10/02/16 by delaine
real life dominance and submission, finding a Dominant

With the film Fifty Shades Darker slated to hit theatres this Valentine’s Day, I’m sure many women will be gung-ho to explore Dominance and submission (D/s). And this quite concerns me: for I know — as a memoirist whose D/s story was adapted into a film — that Hollywood takes poetic licence when telling a […]

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Female Desire: Is Sexual Boredom Inevitable?

Posted on 09/29/16 by delaine
bored with sex, disinterested in sex with husband

When I look back on my relationship history – which includes a few healthy long-term relationships as well as a seven-year marriage that ended in divorce, I see one rather unsettling common denominator underneath them: I eventually got “bored” with the sex. Now by “bored”, I mean I experienced a dramatic drop in sexual desire.  […]

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Dating After Divorce: Ladies, Do You Need An Attitude Tune-Up?

Posted on 09/18/16 by delaine
sex, dating, attitude, tips, divorced women

Dating after divorce can be way more frustrating than it ever did back in our twenties.  Work, stress, kids, exes —  not only are you dealing with extra complications, your selection in good men seems dismally small.    Perhaps it’s time to fine-tune your expectations – and tune up your attitude. Update #1: Focus on being the […]

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The Grand SLAM: *Sex *Like *A *Man

Posted on 09/17/16 by delaine
sex like a man, divorced women, divorcing, sex after divorce

You’ve probably heard women refer to it – this concept of having sex like a man.  But what exactly does that mean?  Why is it challenging for women to do?  Yet why are more women doing it? Leaving judgements aside, let’s take a closer look: Meaning of SLAM: Some women think that having sex like […]

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An Imagination Game for Men: You, A Woman, & An Island

Posted on 09/16/16 by delaine
unfair stereotypes of women, dating after divorce

I think it’s safe to say that the majority of men have strong aversions to women who have “slept around” when it comes to selecting a wife or serious partner.  They’ll say, straight up, such women are  “just for fun”, but not the kind they’d “bring home to momma.” And the reasons men use to […]

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