Tag: anger

Anger & Bitterness: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison Since Divorcing?

Posted on 11/02/16 by delaine
anger bitterness towards women men

Written during Year Three post-divorce; 2011 Do you ever wonder if you’ve become “hardened” as a result of your divorce? By “hardened”, I don’t mean “stronger.”  I mean “encased in bitterness and distrust” towards the opposite sex. Cause it happened to me — and I didn’t even realize it.  In fact, to this very day, […]

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She Grew Balls & Confronted His Mistress to Find ANSWERS

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
brave woman, confront mistress, cheating spouse

When Fiona picked up the phone in the middle of the night to a drunk woman’s voice, asking for her husband, the situation didn’t register at first: she was half-asleep, half out of it. But all of a sudden, her brain went crystal clear.  Heart was pounding. “Who are you?” Fiona asked. “Why are you calling […]

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Screw Him! He Didn’t Want to Get Serious Because I Have Three Kids

Posted on 09/21/16 by delaine
dating after divorce, screw him, not good enough, didn't want to date because I have kids

From the archives of I Am Divorced Not Dead: Originally published in 2010 I broke up with a man a few days ago – a single father of two children.   He’s the first man I’ve gone out with since divorcing that I contemplated getting serious with whatsoever.  But even though we got along brilliantly, even though he […]

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Telling Your Ex-Husband (or Ex-Wife) You Have A New Partner

Posted on 10/15/15 by delaine
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In my work as a divorce coach, it saddens me how often separated or divorced parents refuse to tell each other when they have a serious new partner in their lives. Oftentimes, it’s not until their child says something, or a friend/family member speaks up, that the unknowing ex finds out.  That, or the new […]

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