Tag: Delaine Moore

It’s Sometimes Hard to Be Present With The Children During Divorce

Posted on 11/25/16 by delaine
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Like most parents, I love my kids more than life itself.  And since I got divorced, I’ve worked really hard to make sure that they not just adjusted, but thrived. But I’m human…far from perfect.  And sometimes life circumstances have gotten the best of me or worn me down. Consequently, my children have seen me crying. They’ve […]

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“Edging” – An Amazing Sexual Technique That Makes Women Go Wild

Posted on 11/08/16 by delaine
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Men, have you heard of the term “edging” before?  Do you want your woman to experience the most earth-shattering orgasms of her life, and look at you with stars in her eyes? Then make sure you are well-versed and practiced at “edging.” Edging is an artful technique that involves a man (or woman) bringing his/her partner […]

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Anger & Bitterness: Have Your Walls Become Your Prison Since Divorcing?

Posted on 11/02/16 by delaine
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Written during Year Three post-divorce; 2011 Do you ever wonder if you’ve become “hardened” as a result of your divorce? By “hardened”, I don’t mean “stronger.”  I mean “encased in bitterness and distrust” towards the opposite sex. Cause it happened to me — and I didn’t even realize it.  In fact, to this very day, […]

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The Value of a Sharp, No-Bullsh** Girlfriend & Mentor During Divorce

Posted on 10/31/16 by delaine
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  Sharp.  Astute.  A woman with a “no bullshit” attitude. This is the kind of mentor/girlfriend I believe all divorcing women need in their corner during a divorce.  Let me qualify that by saying it’s not the only kind of friend we need. We need those who make us laugh and forget, those who are […]

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Wallet Size: Does It Matter To You When You Date?

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
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I know the topic of this blog post is contentious and uncomfortable. Nonetheless, I’m fielding these questions anyway:  Does a man’s financial wealth or lack thereof influence your decision to date him or not? Or do you classify this as gold-digging, and find it shallow, offensive, and demeaning to the concept of true love? I decided to ask […]

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She Grew Balls & Confronted His Mistress to Find ANSWERS

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
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When Fiona picked up the phone in the middle of the night to a drunk woman’s voice, asking for her husband, the situation didn’t register at first: she was half-asleep, half out of it. But all of a sudden, her brain went crystal clear.  Heart was pounding. “Who are you?” Fiona asked. “Why are you calling […]

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Role Reversal: “Baby, This is Sex, Not Love”

Posted on 10/26/16 by delaine
I love you to early, divorced mom, when to say I love you

We enjoyed each other’s bodies for hours that night.  And the sex was as magnificent and fulfilling as it was the previous five times we’d lain together: intense, passionate, consuming and totally stress-busting! But afterwards, as I lay cuddled into his chest, eyes closed, brain floating off in Post-Orgasmic Wonderland,  I suddenly heard:  “I love you, […]

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Spotting A Cheater: They Don’t Wear Signs

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
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Oh, the clarity of hindsight. It applies to the signs of a cheating spouse, too. For Mark, the signs came out in the bedroom.  “All of sudden, she kept insisting we do this new sexual position,” he said. “I thought maybe she’d been discussing it with her friends or seen it in a magazine or […]

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Shifting Perspective on Married Couples: Lies, Secrets & Masked Sexual Desires

Posted on 10/24/16 by delaine
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From the archives of I am Divorced Not Dead; originally published in 2009. I was sitting in a packed school auditorium amidst row after row of devoted parents when “it” happened. I looked at the adults around me — husbands and wives sitting side-by-side, some silent, some holding hands, and the odd mom or dad […]

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Please, Lie Beside Me, Lover, and Read

Posted on 10/23/16 by delaine
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I’ve always yearned to lie in bed beside the man I love while we read and discuss a great book.  The mere idea of this sharing feels romantic.  Deeply intimate.   In some ways, exciting. I can’t say that any man I’ve loved or cared for thus far, including my ex-husband, was a book lover like me. […]

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You May Not Get What You Want, But You Get What You Need

Posted on 10/20/16 by delaine
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Over the past year since divorcing, most of my separated and divorced friends have found new partners and set up exciting, new lives for themselves.  And at times, I’ve felt frustrated: Why isn’t the same happening to me?  After all, I crawled and slashed my way out of Rock Bottom, relentlessly performed my internal housekeeping, and grew and stretched […]

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